Spoilery Squee: My Dearest Nemesis

May. 16th, 2025 05:26 pm
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I've been watching My Dearest Nemesis on Viki. From the start, I've found the male lead infuriating and endearing, equally and simultaneously. He's an obnoxious corporate heir, as k-drama male leads are apt to be, but he's also a fanboy. He reads manga, plays videogames, listens to rock music, collects plushies and figurines, and is adorably passionate about these things. But he has to keep his fanboying a secret, suppress his fannish joy in public, and essentially lead a double life because people are judgy.

My heart went out to him, because my mother has shamed me for fangirling just as his grandmother, the chairwoman, shamed him for fanboying. I continue to love and fangirl over things I enjoyed as a child, and so does he. His fanboying range is as wide as mine. He'll read and love a shoujo manga. He'll buy a big plushie of a character from a children's cartoon he loved growing up and still loves now. You can't be told what you're allowed to love, in fandom.

When he tells the female lead he likes her, he apologises for not being able to hide or repress his feelings. Because he hides everything he likes. That's what his world expects him to do.

The female lead tells him that it doesn't make sense for them to date. Because he's a chaebol and she's an ordinary employee. Because he wouldn't be able to make their relationship public. But as she walks away from him, as she thinks about him, she thinks about how deeply and joyously he loves his secrets. How protective he is of them. How much meaning they bring to his life. He told her that even though he wasn't loved or accepted, he could look forward to the future when there was an upcoming new volume of a manga, a new episode or music video. Loving deeply made up for not being loved. She thinks about these things, she turns back, and she tells him that she'll be his biggest secret.

Hypothetically, I wouldn't dig a story about a corporate heir, first, dating his employee, and second, not acknowledging her publicly. But here, I know he wants to shield her, and himself, from external judgement and hurt. I'm only halfway through the show, and I would actually be satisfied if it ended here, with them in love and deciding to hide it from the world. I know that it's likely to end with him holding her hand in front of the world, with them facing the external onslaught and making it through together. But if we are to continue, I want more than that.

When the female lead first saw him fanboying, she told him he looked happy, and she told him to love things to the fullness of his heart. Despite that, when he confesses to her that he likes her, he feels the need to apologise for his feelings. Even calling these things a confession implies that apologetics are due, doesn't it? The ending to their story I am hoping to see is one in which he internalises that loving is fundamentally good and wonderful. The ending to their story I am hoping to see is one in which he loves the female lead openly, and fanboys openly, too.

Perhaps I shall write again when I finish the show. In the meanwhile, I enjoy seeing the emotional similarity of fandom and romance portrayed on screen.

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May. 15th, 2025 11:02 pm

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Mt Hood Corridor Day 3

May. 15th, 2025 04:46 pm
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Or, really days 1-3. First day I hiked towards Mt Hood Village. Second day I was out on the boardwalk over the wetlands. Day 3 I went back out on the boardwalk and and also hiked a bit into the Salmon Huckleberry Wilderness.

I hope to go back and do more photography there. The rain way too heavy at times for pics, and because I was leaving on day 3, I was checked out of my room and once again had everything on me. I'd have stayed another day, but I wanted to be back in Portland for an event that wound up getting cancelled.

And I got to add to my collection of dodgy bridges I've crossed.



This was worse than I realized at first. It's hard to see, but on the left that's tree roots gone sideways. The ground around the base is eroding because the tree fell.



There were also birbs:



And wet walkways over wetlands:



More forest and more wet walkways )

Mt Hood Corridor Day 2

May. 15th, 2025 04:09 pm
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Because the weather was going to be rough, I changed plans and decided to go up to Timberline Lodge on the middle day so I could be doing things, but be out of the weather. I had food on me, but as usual they were able to feed me.

Two things about Timberline Lodge - 1) It was used as the exterior hotel shots in The Shining, but the inside is completely unrelated. 2) It was a WPA project so it's a ski lodge, but also a National Historic Monument. There's a little ranger station on the bottom floor. People can spend time in the lobbies and exhibit areas as long as they don't bring in outside food or try to sleep.

Plan was to work a while in the lobby, have lunch and then do some photography. But, being at a high elevation just after I'd been sick for so long didn't mix well and I left early. So, I didn't really have time for pictures. That did leave me some time before dark to poke around in the woods some more.

Lower area with the ranger station:



Outside:



Main lobby:



Pic of one of the little nooks there:

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May. 15th, 2025 10:39 pm
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Mt Hood Corridor Day 1

May. 15th, 2025 11:45 am
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Things went mostly smoothly?

The one problem is when I was headed out. In Portland, having a group suddenly try to surround me on a sidewalk is something that can happen, but it's been a while and it's usually easy to see potential pedestrian traps. Some parts of Portland have become very infested with evangelists, but they carefully toe the line. Their set ups on the sidewalks are not legal and every time they get too cheeky, try to infringe more on a sidewalk or something, they get talkings to. So, when I saw some down the street I just went eyes down, and pretended they didn't exist, only to have some guy in a trenchcoat block my path. I didn't react well. I don't expect static from that direction. So, I yelled at them and pushed through. I *think* it's because I was wearing a pack and thought I might be someone they could pull that on. In any case, being unexpectedly surrounded really freaked me out. It's something I usually handle well, but I was so 'eyes down, just ignore' I didn't see the close in.

Anyway, after that I got my lunch at Chipotle and headed out to the bus stop, planning to eat on a layover. I wound up getting some nice coffee from a stand near the Gresham Transit Center.

I had been worried about doing a trip where I'd haven to have walk, maybe hike, with everything on me - computer, days of food, etc - especially since the weather report went from '60s and partly sunny' to 'high of 40, overnight freezing and heavy rain'. But I managed it pretty well. I got out into the area, walked to the Wildwood Recreation Site and hiked a few miles before I could check into my place.

Because I was at Wildwood all 3 days, I'll do motel pictures on this post, Timberline on day 2 and post all the Wildwood pics for day 3.

I stayed at what used to be a very run down, sketchy motel in the area. I'd always wanted to stay there because I assumed one day it would be gone. Turns out, they got bought out by a resort company and the buildings were renovated with a focus on keeping with the original character of the place and they restored the original sign

I may have been mildly obsessed with taking aesthetic shots of the sign:





It's a really cute place with a grill and seating area for those staying there, that wasn't yet open for the season. Some of the rooms have their own patios. The rooms that used to be long-stay motel rooms now have full kitchens. I think my room was a storage closet and they renovated it to squeeze one more room in without changing the building too much. It was way smaller than any other on site and I am pretty sure the bathroom was made by shrinking the on-site laundry room. Not complaining, it was a cute place and well kept. Staying there post-sale was probably a much better and possibly safer option. I'm glad they are keeping it the way they are.

Last day for 3wks4dw

May. 15th, 2025 10:36 am
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Well, that flew by. When I started this I wasn't sure I could post for fifteen days straight. It's turned out to be a heck of a lot of fun, and what I needed to encourage me to post more often. (Plus, aren't we all happy that posts aren't graded for content?

How has the challenge been for you? Did you give it a shot? Make it through all 15 days? Or just enjoy reading the posts that showed up on your flist? Curious minds want to know.

Meanwhile, I'll be working on my story for Unconventional Courtship




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LEP 15.5.

May. 15th, 2025 11:06 am
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I love trying to describe my job in the smallest words possible because it sounds like nothing.

I loosen and fasten screws and bolts all day.

Changelog May 15th

May. 15th, 2025 07:35 am
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Community Thursday

May. 15th, 2025 05:49 am
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Community Thursday challenge: every Thursday, try to make an effort to engage with a community on Dreamwidth, whether that's posting, commenting, promoting, etc.


Over the last week...

[community profile] bnha_fans posts and comments.

Commented on [community profile] getyourwordsout and [community profile] worderlands. Writerly things!

Commented on [community profile] common_nature. Naturey thing!

Signal boosts:

  • I just came across [community profile] problematicfemslash, a comm for problematic/dark femslash prompts, which I think some people in my circles may also enjoy!

lol, I got my [community profile] intoabar assignment

May. 14th, 2025 07:36 pm
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Your assignment is:

Fa Mulan goes into a bar and meets... Toph Beifong (Avatar: The Last Airbender)!



Let's see if I can finally get anything written again. With everything going on it's been hard to focus, and I don't know how I'm going to bring these 2 together, lol.

Wednesday Reading Meme

May. 14th, 2025 04:40 pm
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What I Just Finished Reading

Nothing, but I had a migraine all week.

What I'm Reading Now

Comics Wednesday!

Doctor Strange of Asgard #3, One World Under Doom #4, Thunderbolts Doomstrike #4, Ultimate Black Panther #16,Ultimate X-Men #15 )

What I'm Reading Next

I should probably start on the Hugo nominees. I am not sure if I will have the brain to do so.

What do you mean, clean my desk?

May. 14th, 2025 03:03 pm
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Clean desk saying


This might be true.

Messy desk

(my phone would be there too but I needed it to take the picture)

Some entrepreneurial books

May. 14th, 2025 05:07 am
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Quite a bit of my reading over the last couple of months has been nonfiction about marketing and running a small business. My year's theme is sustainability and reinvention: learning how to do this business in a way that makes decent money and doesn't burn me out. I've had some misses, but I felt like I got useful insight (for me personally) from these:

Write to Riches by Renee Rose: I am deeply annoyed that one of the most personally useful books I've read in the last few months is a book on manifesting. (For those who don't know, manifesting is big right now in the indie writer community; it's a philosophy that involves nurturing the correct energy to energetically attract/manifest the things you want from the universe. In other words, if you want a new house, tell the universe that you want a house and really believe in getting a house and it will give you a house.) I don't believe in the energy side of it at all. But ...
more on that the positive thinking, forward-looking, "seize the opportunity when it comes along" mentality of it has actually been very helpful for me on a purely non-metaphysical basis. Similarly, manifesting philosophy is big on clearing "energy blocks" that prevent the energy from flowing freely through you, but - once again I am deeply annoyed that this is so useful - on a non-metaphysical level, it involves identifying the specific beliefs that are stopping you from going out and getting a thing you want, and going, "Well, is that a rational belief to have? What's the basis of it? What if I didn't believe that? What if I tried anyway?"

From an actual best-practices standpoint, it turns out that going into a new venture, even if it's just like, doing a highway drive or something, and telling myself ahead of time that it's going to work out for the best, I'll have a good time and accomplish what I want and I'm prepared to deal with anything that happens along the way, is useful! Far more useful than dwelling on what might go wrong. To be completely fair, this isn't a huge perspective shift for me, more like leaning into my natural optimism and confidence, which I do have a lot of to begin with, at least on my more positive days. But doing it deliberately and with intent is something a bit new for me, and I like the results, so I think I'm going to keep working at it.

I ran into a summary of the useful-for-me aspects of manifesting somewhere else, not in this book, which is basically (paraphrased from memory): if you really want a duck, and you spend all your time learning about ducks, and you hang out around people who have ducks and talk about ducks and start noticing ducks and tell everyone you want a duck and spend time in places where ducks are, eventually you will have a duck. Manifesting at its less energetic end is just that. Once you start really applying yourself to getting a duck, you notice ducks everywhere! Or at least you realize that if you want a duck that badly, you need to change your life in ways that are compatible with duck ownership.

(This book has a number of journaling exercises that also combine well with some other journaling practices I've been discovering via other books I've been reading, so if nothing else I might come out of this with some self-soothing journal habits too. Like writing down three successes from the day, major or minor; that kind of thing. Or asking your subconscious to help solve a problem while you sleep. I'm not doing any of this regularly, but I'm kicking around the idea of doing more of it, and more often.)



Slow Productivity by Cal Newport: This book is on pacing yourself to avoid burnout. I don't know how personally useful it's going to be for me, but I enjoyed reading it - there are also quite a few actionable suggestions in the last section for putting this into effect as a creative person - and I think in particular, this book is reassuring as a reminder that you don't have to be on the go all the time to get anywhere. Fallow periods and taking the time to do something right from the beginning are just as important as rushing through to the finish line, and this is not only a reminder of that, but it has a number of useful case studies of creative people who played the long game well. And sometimes intentionally making less money and enjoying life more is the right choice. As indie publishing can be geared towards sellsellsell at all times, this was a nice antidote to that.

10x is Easier than 2x by Benjamin Hardy & Dan Sullivan: This is a book with a caveat, which is that it's based on this one self-help guru's "get ahead faster" (and pay me money to find out how!) shtick. But it actually did give me quite a bit of food for thought. The idea here is that, as a creative person trying to make a living or a small business owner, incrementally improving your business/creative life by making small improvements to what you're already doing is actually more difficult and less productive in the long run than learning to make big sea-change shifts to discard what didn't work before, embrace the best of what you've already learned, and level up rapidly. (And be happier, work better, and enjoy your life more.)
More on thatBasically, you can go on making small improvements to things you're already doing - or find ways to toss/eliminate/outsource everything that is cluttering up your creative life and embrace the aspects of it that you really want to do more of, to lean into what you really want to do rather than being sucked down by minutiae and aspects of creativity/entrepreneurship that you don't enjoy.

This book is largely aimed at self-employed people, whereas the Slow Productivity book is geared more towards those who don't have as much freedom to self-pace. So they're complementary in a way. But the philosophy of both has some things in common. I think one thing that keeps coming up in the books I'm reading is: as a business owner, outsourcing or - if possible - eliminating the things you don't want to do simply makes sense. It's better business practice (why do something exhausting, that you're not that good at, that takes you away from what you really want to be doing?) and frees up more time for doing what you're good at, that you do and enjoy best, or simply having more unstructured leisure time to refresh and recharge.


Obviously the exact amount of usefulness in any of these books is going to depend on where you are in your life, creatively and otherwise, but these are hitting me in the right way for what I'm currently working on figuring out, which is how to go forward in a way that's more sustainable for me long-term than the past few years have been. My big issue is that 2022-24 burned me out so badly - not just including work, but also personal, health, family issues - that I'm only now feeling like I'm starting to get back some of the creative fire that I used to deploy without even thinking about it in the 2010s. So I'd like to keep enjoying and building on that in a healthy way going forward, and not dig myself right back into the same hole.

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May. 14th, 2025 03:31 pm
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I am obsessed with Bratz. The dolls aren't available in India but I have three, including one from childhood. And I am in love with their discography. So you can imagine my delight when Bratz recently had their girl group moment!



Especially as this new song, Think About It, has references to one of their classic songs, Never Gonna Give Up.



Speaking of girl groups, here's an English language girl group I stumbled upon on YouTube. I enjoyed this track, and the setting and outfits. It's a vibe, and it makes me happy. I lowkey want to live there and wear those outfits.

A smidge of Babylon 5

May. 13th, 2025 09:40 pm
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I watched the first ten minutes or so of the B5 movie "In the Beginning." At this point I'm doling out the remaining new-to-me canon in small doses, so that I get some fresh input now and then - which means I will get to actual plot in this movie .... eventually. Not yet.

But I have this to say )

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